Investing in a Child’s Strengths

Peter Murphy, Ph.D.

Adage for the day: When it comes to raising children, time is your ally.

Sometimes we discover the strengths in children by looking at the flip-side of what appear to be deficits.  For example, you might have a child who becomes single-minded and relentless when “locked onto” something she wants.  She can wear you down until you either lose your cool or just give in to maintain your sanity.  While this trait aggravates you at times, it could be a great asset in a different context.  Perhaps your child will be a great attorney whose single-minded focus contributes to her personal success.  Obviously, she will need help to learn how to manage this trait in personal relationships, but this will come about with your help and support over time.